 Has been violent (particularly to women) in the past.
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Is controlling.
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Belittles you and diminishes your accomplishments.
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Seems to be dominated by his parents/family.
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He talks more than he listens. He interrupts you frequently.
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He has been married before and treated his previous wife/wives poorly.
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Has only negative things to say about his previous wife/wives.
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Talks a lot about an ex-wife or girlfriend (astaghfirullah).
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Is often disdainful of your interests and beliefs.
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Knows you have a child, but shows no interest in your child.
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Does not show much interest in your life.
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Is always talking about himself.
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Is very negative.
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Is often talking negatively about others - how they are envious of him, how they want to drag him down, etc.
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Has had previous problems with drugs, alcohol and/or gambling.
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Has been sexually promiscuous.
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Is a workaholic.
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Has a criminal past.
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Cannot legally marry you.
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Compares you to other women.
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Seems to be looking only for a maid, cook, mother for his children, or nursemaid for his elderly parents.
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Is overly interested in your physical appearance.
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His ideal wife is very different from the kind of wife you want to be.
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Does not have a similar attitude towards major issues.
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His plans for the future are not in line with your own.
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Asks you for money.
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Does not have a stable job.
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Has not involved his family and friends.
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Will not/does not talk about his family and friends.
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His friends and relatives do not seem to like you.
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Makes negative comments about or is rude to your family and friends.
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Does not seem to treat his own family members well.
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He and/or his relatives are too focused on your finances.
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He and/or his relatives talk too much about money, material goods, and status.
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His friends and/or family do not seem to share your values.
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Does not live or work where he says he does.
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Details he has told you about himself do not add up.
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Will not provide you with references.
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You are the only one making an effort or changing your schedule to continue communicating.
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Will not send you photographs of himself.
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Seems to be in a big hurry to get married.
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